February 14, 2008
Girls, tell me about red roses. Do ya love them or hate them? Dudes, what do you think about red roses? Big sigh here. Guys think that the red rose means love. They’ve been giving them to chicks since junior high and will continue to give them no matter what the girl says. Girls, how many times have you said “I hate red roses. They’re so played. So…high school prom.” And we have this conversation with you men several times a year. We very precisely tell you how much we LOVE pink/white/yellow/purple/anycolorbutred/peach and then you send….red roses. Because any other color would mean you don’t love us? But not listening to us ALSO means you don’t love us. Not remembering that pale pink roses makes me go weak in the knees means you weren’t listening. So the debate goes on: Don’t send me roses. I sent you red roses. Don’t send me roses. BUT RED ROSES MEAN LOVE!
Ladies, what color roses did you get? Men, what color did you send?
February 14, 2008 at 12:24 pm
How about a black rose?,although red is a symbol of warmth.
February 14, 2008 at 12:32 pm
I bought you pink roses this year. It’s too bad I just got screwed by 1-800-FLOWERS who were nice enough to call to let me know they won’t be delivering any today. Jackholes. Good thing I had a Plan B up my sleeve. No, really. I was totally prepared for this. Definitely.
February 14, 2008 at 12:37 pm
Malc- Hmmm. I can’t say I’d be wild about a black rose. Seems sort of satanic to me.
Steve- I can’t believe it’s the first year I would have gotten pink roses!!!!!!!!! WOO HOOO! The whole plan-ahead thing really worked for you at Christmas. I recommend that.
February 14, 2008 at 12:57 pm
I pretty much never give my wife roses. She told me years ago what her favorite flowers were and I try to give those. Tuesday was our anniversary (31st) and even though I am away from home on business this year I made sure that she had flowers at the school where she works. Not a rose in the bunch. I ordered them almost two weeks ago BTW. Also last year I was supposed to be away on business but I cut the trip short so I could be home for our 30th. I have permission to be away this year.
February 14, 2008 at 1:11 pm
Alfred- I am SO proud of you.
And happy anniversay!
February 14, 2008 at 2:40 pm
Roses? Huh?
Actually I used to get a dozen red roses every year until I finally confessed and told him I’d much rather have a $60 gift certificate to the book store. This is MN… roses die fast.
I’m going book shopping… want me to pick you up?
February 14, 2008 at 2:49 pm
Fig- I do like flowers, but I do always tell him not to send them to me on holidays when the prices are inflated 200%.
Ummm….how ’bout I drive?
February 14, 2008 at 4:20 pm
Alfred: Thanks for that. The view is lovely from here under the bus.
February 14, 2008 at 4:35 pm
Dear- If you hadn’t tried to order flowers today in a panic, they would have been able to deliver some. It’s your own fault.
February 14, 2008 at 5:34 pm
whoops I commented on the wrong post.
What I meant to say was…
If I had a Valentine she’d get Red Roses. Red is classic even if they are marked up over 200% it’s the thought that counts not the $150.00 retail.
(btw got here via Nullibi City where Roses die fast and books go on forever)
February 14, 2008 at 6:00 pm
Jackalope-THIS is the red rose mentality us girls are trying SO HARD to banish! NO RED! NO RED! NO! ;D
LMAO @ where the roses die fast and books go on forever. You forgot the part about Figgy’s backseat being a little dirty. ;D
February 14, 2008 at 9:13 pm
Jackalope - If it’s the thought that counts and not the price then what does buying your girl a dozen of a flower she does not want or like say? That you didn’t really think of her at all and just bought what is considered genericly romatic to cover yourself?
Imhelen - I totally agree if a guy really wants to be romantic he should listen to his woman. If she likes the stereotypical roses then great, but if she doesn’t it shouldn’t be a surprise when she gets miffed about getting red roses. It’s not about acknowledging the holiday it’s about expressing your love and the best way to do that is by giving your partner something you know they love.
February 14, 2008 at 10:18 pm
jackalope - I did the exact same thing - commented to the wrong post!
Anyhoo like I said before…. My husband delivered a box of Fruity Pebbles just as I requested. He’s the best! The only flowers I like are the ones I get to plant and he buys me plenty of those too. Yea for breakfast and husband!
February 14, 2008 at 10:50 pm
Sorry Steve, I’ve been in Seattle away from my wife for almost 2 weeks now and it is messing up my brain. On the other hand you should hear some of the stories my Dad has done that make us all look bad.
February 14, 2008 at 11:43 pm
ANY flowers are good. Not to say I don’t have my favorites, but if I get any, I am a happy woman.
As for throwing people to the bus Steve, I can irritate you in two ways with the following.
My friend works for a company that was just purchased by Microsoft. She was somewhat upset by the acquisition and she had a cold, so she went to bed. Her hubby was out playing hockey that night and felt bad he wasn’t there to console her. The next morning when she awoke to go to work, she found a snowman in the driveway(they don’t live in snow country) that her hubby had made by collecting the snow from the zamboni and bringing it home in the bed of his pick up. Now that’s love AND it’s way better than flowers.
February 15, 2008 at 12:16 am
CarnageSIS- That’s really what it is. It’s not that I hate red roses. It’s that he wasn’t listening for the last almost 20 years!
Happy Applehead- oooohhhI should have asked for a box of lucky charms!
Alfred- He hates being thrown under the bus, but it’s of his own making.
SUSAN! We’ve HAD the red rose conversation!!!!!!! Don’t lie and say you want them!
February 15, 2008 at 9:13 am
I’m sort of late coming in on this one….
But.
I love the white ones. And the yellow ones. I pretty much hate the red ones bacause my ex SO over did them, and had his MOTHER deliver them. So, now, red roses remind me of my EX mother-in-law….who gives me the heebie jeebie’s.
My husband was awesome this year. He promises me a rose garden. And he’ll do it, too!!!
February 15, 2008 at 11:13 am
Candid- EWAH! The ex mother in law? GAHH! Make sure you get the good smelling roses. I don’t buy the non-smellers.
February 15, 2008 at 2:19 pm
One red rose maybe. Different flowers symbolise different things. As well a particular flower could evoke particular emotions to a girl. For instance, if she grew up with sunflowers outside her window you can make damn sure she’s getting a random bunch of sunflowers every now and then sent to her office or flat.
Depends on the girl.
February 15, 2008 at 2:50 pm
Red ones.
Three of them, the same number as our kids.
On our anniversary, so far, I’ve done one rose for each year. Which the last time, the lady at the store had a hard time understanding why I only wanted 11 of the dozen…
February 15, 2008 at 4:41 pm
Red Wine- The exact emotion red roses evoke it this: There was this guy in high school who was DYING to go out with me. He was a senior when I was a sophomore. Baseball team, Mr. Popularity. EVERYONE was pressuring me to say yes and go out with him. SO I finally did. The date was fine except he was SOOOO into me and I was just…terrified. The next day he sent me two dozen red roses. And I never went out with him again. The roses were the final straw. This guy freaked me out.
I love daisies and tulips. And pink roses.
Beau- That was very sweet. No one would ever suspect about the lightbulbs or defiling her keyboard. ;D
February 15, 2008 at 5:18 pm
Roses? I don’t know that I’ve EVER gotten roses from anyone. For anything. Including childbirth. But I digress…
We don’t usually do the V-Day thing because our anniversary is Feb. 18 (Lucky 13 this year…be afraid) but as a rule flowers in general aren’t on the go-to list. Have to say though, this is one of the only years in memory where he’s given me something on V-Day in spite of our anniversary being so close: a very cute, inside-joke card and a new CD he knew I wanted. The gift was lovely but the surprise of it was the clincher. I really didn’t expect anything yesterday!
Purple tulips, irises and stargazer lilies for me. I carried purple tulips at my wedding and the lilies/irises came in a bouquet when J was born. Forever my favorites.
February 15, 2008 at 5:29 pm
You’ve NEVER gotten roses? OMFG! How WRONG!
It must be the hot new bod that’s turning him on. Congratulations again on all the weight loss!
I love those flowers too. Actually I garden a lot because I LOVE the flowers!
February 16, 2008 at 1:19 am
Helen, you didn’t read that carefully. I said I have my favorites (red roses isn’t on the list), but I’d still be happy to get them cuz at least he took the time to do something rather than nothing. It might not be that the guy totally went the extra mile, but even the 1/2 mile makes me happy.
February 19, 2008 at 5:35 am
Late again Im Afraid, but we’ve been really romantic this year lol. NOT!
My Parents are taking the kids away to thier ravavan (Caravan) at the sneaside(Seaside) in March so we’re saving our cash and spending it on a day out in Manchester. If anyone ever comes over to England (Apart from Mr Geek of course who already lives here) they should go to Manchester! Its brilliant. the nightlife is brilliant, the shoppings fantastic and the place has loads of character.
anyway, Im waffling, we’re being ultra romantic and Im buying tickets to see this:
http://www.msim.org.uk/whats-on/body-worlds-4
bit gory for some, but Karl was facinated with this process when he saw it on channel 4 a couple of years ago. Its a once in a lifetime oppurtunity so we’re going.
Im not sure how well my stomach will cope but its something that we will both remember.
As for flowers, I normally get Lillies, because thats what I had in my wedding bouquet. Not overly keen on roses full stop to be honest, I thik there are far more beautiful flowers out there
June 20, 2008 at 8:53 am
I bet you broke that guys heart in high school! He probably went on to question himself for a few years and then decided it wasnt your fault (when it really was) but that it was because he was gay, after realizing he was gay he tried drag and probably went on to become some horrible drag queen in bad heels….and its all your fault because you hate red roses
June 20, 2008 at 8:29 pm
Jesse- It WASN’T the roses! Even if he had sent me pink ones, I still wouldn’t have gone out with him again.